This is the day that the Lord has made, let us rejoice and be glad in it! -Psalms 118:24

Tuesday, February 28, 2012

7 by Jen Hatmaker

Hey guys, what's my deal??  2 posts in 1 week.  I know, I am on a roll :)  I wanted to tell you all about this journey that I am on.  Its a journey with me and about 26 other folks (including Shane). My friend, Tiffany, messaged me and wanted me to read the book to see if it would be something Shane and I are interested in doing.  The book was great!!  It completely messed me up.  I was all nice and cozy in my warm, over-indulgent lifestyle and Jen Hatmaker went and ruined it with this book.  The nerve, right?!?!?  The idea behind it can best be explained with this one simple quote from her book, "Seven will be an exercise in simplicity with one goal; to create space for God's kingdom to break through."  We are to simplify seven HUGE areas in our life and let God shine - You might be asking what these areas are:  Food, Clothes, Possessions, Media, Spending, Waste, and Stress.

We began this journey in February - food month.  We had to cut down what we eat to 7, yes SEVEN foods.  You are allowed a tablespoon of olive oil and some salt and pepper.  My foods were: apples, bread, cheese, refried beans, peanut butter, cucumbers, and eggs.  The first 2 weeks went off without a hitch.  Not one thing "illegal" went into my mouth.  We even hosted a SuperBowl party with tons of food and still did great!!  (Shane had slightly different foods).  Then we cracked.  Went out to eat for Valentine's Dinner because we talked ourselves into it.  We felt the stress of our current life situation...which I can go into later...allowed for us to "have a break".  THIS WAS THE WORST DECISION WE COULD HAVE MADE!  'Cause let me tell ya something...ever heard that saying 'once a cheater, always a cheater'?  I cheated a lot after that.  I am horrible!  I hated myself every time I did it.  (btw: I need to insert that Shane was WAY better at staying on his 7 foods than I was.)  I know hate is not of the Lord and that it was the devil making me feel bad (to put it simply). So, what did this month bring me?  I never knew how much we wasted.  How much food sits on our table every morning, noon, and evening to feed our family.  And even more sickening, how much goes in the trash when we are done.  This made me sick.  To think of all those literally starving to death makes me broken inside.  I yearn to help those that need it.  Did you know that some kids in Haiti have to eat mudcakes that consist of mud, a little butter, and salt?  That's what keeps them alive.  Breaks your heart doesn't it?  So how do we help?  Well there are several ways.  What do Shane and I do?  We pray.  We sponsor a Compassion child. (Shane has actually been doing this for several years now.)  $38 a month gives a child food, clothing, clean water, an education, and hope!  If you would like to learn more about compassion go here: http://www.compassion.com/about/about-us.htm.  I hope in the days to come we will find more ways to help.  Maybe sponsor another child, donate more to a local food bank, something, anything.  I know our prayers have become pretty focused on the hungry.  So, even if all a person gets out of the month of 7 foods is focused prayers for the hungry people of the world, then AMEN to that!  Afterall, God answers prayers!  :)  Jaden wants to send her leftovers to Haiti.  Such a sweet heart she has.  Too bad it doesn't work that easy, huh!

We have now moved on to month 2.  Clothes.  We have to choose 7 articles of clothes to wear .) Undergarments are free.)  I chose 2 pairs of jeans, 2 t-shirts, a hoodie, 1 pair of pajama pants, and tennis shoes.  I allowed 1 workout outfit for the gym and my wedding band.  But that's it.  No earrings, no watch, no pretty shoes for church.  EEK.  The thought did cross my mind that this might be a pretty easy month.  I won't have to worry about what I am going to wear.  We will see if I still feel this way in 4 weeks!!  Odds are that will be a big negative.  I hope I can learn something from this, learn how there are so many right here in Northwest Arkansas that only own the clothes on their backs.  I am already cleaning out the closet.  I have a feeling that the majority of my possessions month (give away 7 items a day) will be focused on donating my clothes.  Just an fyi: I feel completely naked without earrings and a watch...just sayin'

So to conclude this super long post I will say this...READ the book.  Even if you don't attempt to do the complete journey, I promise it will change the way you look at yourself, your family, and all those people that God tells us to love and help!  You can buy it on Amazon for like $10 I think.

love you all!
-Melissa

**and please, please, please let me know if you read or have read the book - I would love to hear what you think!

Monday, February 27, 2012

ok, ok, ok....

I know, I am horrible!  My last post was something like 4 months ago.  Needless to say, I am busy!  :) 5 kids people, cut me some slack! Well I have found myself with a little down time in between my son's wrestling matches and thought to myself, hey - I should write on our blog.  Catch the people up!  I know you have been anxiously awaiting another post, right?!?!?

So, what's been happening?  Well I started my own business.  Crafts By MEG.  I am making ribbon wreaths, paintings, and the like.  I am loving it!  I actually will be in a craft show at the beginning of May in Bella Vista, AR if anyone would be interested in coming to see my stuff!  (Spanker Creek Arts and Craft Show.) I currently have a booth set up in Markets Unlimited here in Lowell and they sell my stuff there.  It's actually all going pretty good.  Here's some of my stuff:

         

 

                                              




We also joined a new church.  Grace Point in Bentonville.  I just signed on to be the worship leader of Planet Kids (which is their Kindergarten - 5th grade program)  I am so excited to jump right in and start spiritually growing with all the great kiddos in there!  

There are some other changes in store for us over the next year...we will definitely keep everyone updated.  Just looking to God and praying that his will for our life be apparent to us and more importantly, that we LISTEN to what we are supposed to be doing :)  So as always, prayers are welcome.  

I will try to post again soon... oh, and Zane won the tournament.  1st place baby!!  So proud of him! 

Love you guys,
Melissa

Thursday, September 22, 2011

Sorry, I have been MIA!

Hey everybody!! It has been so crazy busy hectic around here - I haven't even had time to think about a blog post!  Sorry!! It has been non-stop since we closed on our house August 26th! I am happy to report that as of today all that is left to paint is the master bathroom and the kids' playroom.  Yeah for that! I actually enjoy painting but am really tired of it consuming my life.  I do, however, sit back at the end of MY day (which is usually about 5 hours after the end of the kids' day) and am impressed at how far this house has come in a months time! We had lots and lots of help the weekend we moved in - which was of course - completely appreciated since I was still recovering from surgery.  I hated having to sit back and watch the work that I wanted to be doing be done by someone else.  I did do too much and have paid for it since but all is good now! And I am improving daily.  I still don't have time to do much of a post but I am going to include some before and after pictures of the house.  WE ARE ALMOST DONE! (well, as done as we are going to be right now - tiled floors, new countertops, and a privacy fence are future projects!) That is like music to my ears :)


                        
Kitchen before...

Kitchen after...

Dining area / pantry before...

Dining area / pantry after...

Back of living room - before

Back of living room - after...


 Front of living room - before...

Front of living room - after

Hope everyone is having a great week!  I will post again soon.  I promise ;-)  I am actually doing some craft projects right now and will have a post about those soon! 


God Bless,
Melissa


p.s. oh yah, and could you please keep us in your prayers - we are trying to figure out some things in our life right now (ie. a new church home and what God is calling Shane and I to do- just lots to figure out). And prayers are always welcomed! 

Monday, August 22, 2011

my little hero

Hey all!  
I tell you what, this weekend was absolutely awful - well, I should rephrase that - I am ALIVE which actually makes it wonderful but the experience this weekend was awful.  
Oh where to begin??  
Well, Jaden had to miss last Friday of school because she had a fever of around 103-104 when she came home from school Thursday.  I assumed she had strep since I had it the week before.  So, I get up Friday and make her a doctor's appt but can't get her in until 3:00 that afternoon, so I force her to just lie down on the couch and "rest" so her fever doesn't go sky high!  Anyways, the kids want a water out of the fridge and for some reason can't do this themselves as they normally can.  I get up from cuddling with Jaden on the couch and fall flat on my face - completely black out.  Wow, scared the kids like crazy!  So, I am assuming it's because I hadn't eaten anything and so I drag myself to the pantry for a spoonful of peanut butter and a glass of Dr. Pepper.  I fumble my way around the kitchen and finally finish the quick breakfast I have made for myself and try to get my "bearings" back so I can make it back to the couch.  I crawl back.  And sit for a good 15 minutes.  Still a little woozy but thinking I feel better.  Then a fight begins in the back bedroom; one in which I can't let take care of itself.  So I get up, and go right back to my face. What the heck??  This time the fall really really hurts.  I am scared, the kids are scared.  Jaden gets my phone and calls Shane.  "Mommy fell and needs help" is what I believe was said (I don't remember completely because I am half out of it while the call is made).  This call COMPLETELY saved my life, no doubt! Oh how glad I was that overprotective, over worried mommy that MADE my child learn how to slide to unlock and dial a phone number! Anyways, one more attempt to get up was made before Shane finally arrived.  At this point, the kids are sitting in a straight line, watching very intently me grab my chest because the pain is almost unbearable.  Shane calls 911.  My mind instantly goes to what every mom's mind would go to - my kids cannot see me on a stretcher! The 911 operator thinks I am having a heart attack and makes Shane give me an aspirin to chew and at this point my sister is arriving to take care of the kids.  She pulls up right when the paramedics do.  They rush in and attach me to every machine they could possibly carry in that ambulance.  My heart is beating way too fast and they want me in the hospital - they do however rule out this being a "heart attack" - but aren't sure what it is.  They wheel me out as I am looking into my panic-stricken children's eyes and it breaks me.  I NEVER EVER want to see that again and will forever have the image of them looking at me, so scared, burned into my memory.  My attempt to tell my sister to "help them not be scared" was just a jumbled bunch of words...
In the ambulance they give me Adenosine to control my heartbeat and this works, it brings it down to normal levels.  At this point everything is a blur.  All events are foggy and run together for the rest of the day.  I do know that my body started doing some sort of seizure thing that has since left me feeling like every muscle in my body has been torn and morphine didn't stop them.  I was in so much pain that I think my body blocked out the memory.  Everyone there said they haven't ever seen anything like it. I know that most of my family was there although I don't remember any of them.  I remember Shane, and my mom...and that's about it.  Shane was right by me the entire time! They attempt a cat scan to see what's going on but my body just wouldn't do what they wanted.  Every few minutes my body was in some weird contortionist move that kept them from doing any sort of test...finally they give me something that keeps me somewhat still.  And do another cat scan.  Blood..they find blood, and lots of it.   Internal bleeding to be exact.  One thing I do remember from that day.  Those words.  Internal Bleeding.  I knew I was dying.  And by the look in everyone's eyes, I wasn't the only one thinking that.  So they bring in bags of blood and start pumping it in.  I am scared. Shane is scared.  Everyone is scared.  So the question now is why?  They see a rupture right at one of my ovaries and call my OB.  It's a ruptured cyst - repairable at that!!  So they wheel me into emergency surgery and  take out half of that ovary (sorry if that's too much info) and suck out all the blood.  About 3 pints to be exact.  Your body has 10.  That's how weak I was. This is, of course, it in a nutshell and doesn't even account for the emotional trauma that this brought to everyone involved.  I know that parents should never go through that, husbands should never go through that and I hate that mine had to. To know that they watched me helplessly with tears in their eyes kills me.   


I am now basically on bed rest to repair whats going on inside there...but oh so thankful to be alive, and oh so thankful that my daughter was home sick with strep...crazy huh!!!


And all this the weekend  before we are scheduled to close on our house.  Great timing is NOT my specialty. 


I sit here writing this while under strong narcotics and with an ice pack on my belly while my husband is packing up the kitchen and I can't help but be thankful.  I couldn't have gotten through this without my family.  Everyone pulled together and made me relax. I truly do have an amazing family!  Shane, Stacey, my mom, my dad (he actually built me steps so that I can get into our super tall bed), Dustin, Jordon, Terri, Danny, Herbie, and so many friends who have brought food and offered to pack and paint.  I am blessed and this was one more way to show me how true that really is...


And now, I must sleep.  Goodnight all!  And remember that life is short - hug those babies and your loved ones!


And I must say that indeed it was God that was once again watching over our family.  He saved me.  As he has done over and over again in the past!  Thank you Lord, Your grace is amazing! 


Melissa

Tuesday, August 16, 2011

the latest and greatest

It has been such a crazy busy past few weeks!!  (Hence my lack of posting!)  


ABSOLUTELY GREAT NEWS TO REPORT:  All blood work has came back on Kalen and she is ok!! Well, she has mono, which isn't great, but she doesn't have what they thought it was!!  I have been so blessed to have healthy, happy kids-(minus a slight scare at birth with the twins), and for the first time I was faced with the possibility of something horrible being wrong with one of my sweet babies.  Absolutely heart wrenching! My heart breaks every time I think of those parents that don't receive the phone call of a clean bill of health; that instead receive devastating news that their perfect little angel is fighting something that might end their precious little lives early.  If I have learned anything at all from this experience it's to 100% cherish every moment you have with your children.  Every scraped knee, every tear, every laugh, and every smile because life is so short.  And to lean on God - I learned that in fact I cannot control everything, that there are things that are in fact completely out of my control. That feeling of helplessness is what it took for me to realize how powerful and great He really is.  (Not that I really didn't already know that)  My faith and complete support of all my friends and family got me through those difficult few days.  Thankfully, Kalen was unaware of anything going on and did relatively ok during the needles and cat scans and x-rays.  I have to thank ALL the people all over this United States that were praying for my family during that time.  And I have to thank God for watching over us!  The faithful part of me knew the entire time that God had a perfect plan, as He always does, it was just the mommy in me questioning it - go figure - Melissa questioning something! :)


So,basically she just needs to take it easy for the next little bit and get plenty of rest.  She just happens to be the most hyper kid I have ever met...this "rest" thing is crazy to her!!  
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So, approximately 4 hours after receiving the good news about Kalen, I started feeling horrible.  It hit so fast!  By the next morning I could barely get out of bed, Shane actually had to stay home for 2 days which is completely unlike me...usually, no matter how bad I feel, I can still take care of the kids and house.  Not this time! So one shot and a round of oral antibiotics later, I am finally back to normal.  It left about as quickly as it hit.  I can honestly say that was the sickest I have ever been and hope and pray it never happens again.  I tell ya, when you are stressed, I don't think your body can fight anything off!!  
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And this week my oldest, Jaden, started her first day of Kindergarten.  This killed me.  I can't believe my little girl is old enough to go to school.  And I have trouble handing her over to just anyone...her Kindergarten teacher does seem really nice so that makes it easier.  And Jaden absolutely loves school!  She's so much like me it's scary :) Here are a couple of pictures of her first day.  


     

A True Beauty!! 
(please excuse that packing mess behind her...we are moving!)

*She actually had me just <gulp> drop her off and not walk her in on only her 2nd day - little miss independent breakin' her momma's heart :(  She did great though.  Of course!  She's way smarter than I give her credit for :) I guess I just still want her to need me...is that so wrong!?!?!?!?!  
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So, while big sister was at school and Corben is with his dad in Texas, (they went to Six Flags for a little mini-vacay and Kalen couldn't go because she has to protect Mr. Spleen) Kalen and I went to Chuck E Cheese's and enjoyed some much needed one-on-one time!  Her and I had a blast.  She actually asked me to just follow her around with the money, and of course, I obliged!  Here she is riding the jeep: 


Another True Beauty! 

Shane and I bought the gallons and gallons of paint this weekend for our new house...before and after pictures to come.  We have an extremely busy next few weeks ahead.  We close at the end of this month and have to be out of our duplex by then too...and I CAN'T WAIT!!!  

I hope you all have a great day and a great week...I will post again soon!

-Melissa  

Sunday, August 7, 2011

prayers for our sweet Kalen

We need prayer for Kalen.  She had preliminary blood work done for what I thought was a seemingly unimportant swollen tonsil - and it doesn't look good.  More tests to be ran Monday morning, so please keep her close to your heart and towards the top of the prayer lists.  This is one scared momma with one brave little girl!  

Updates to come...

Wednesday, August 3, 2011

random pictures

Hey Everybody!  
I just thought I'd share a few photos of the kids!  Enjoy :)


Kalen, Jaden, and Leia

Corben, Kalen, and Jaden making whoopie pies - YUMMY!! 

Jaden - playing T-Ball 

Corben - feeding the ducks at the park

Zane "the wrestler" - holding his trophy! 


And I was having a pretty bad day yesterday - so, my wonderful husband bought me flowers to brighten my day...aren't they beautiful?!?!
I am truly blessed! 

Hope everyone is having a great day!!